Dealing with stress in campus

  • Handling college stress is one of the bigger challenges students face during their time in school.
  •                    From classes and mean lecturers to relationships and time management, the stress of college life always affects many students.     However, having stress in college doesn’t always have to mean being stressed in campus. Most Importantly: Don’t Stress About Being Stressed,this may seem ridiculous at first, but it is listed first for a reason: when you’re feeling stressed, you feel like you’re on edge and the best way to handle stress is to not get more stressed about . . . being stressed.
  •                       If you’re stressed out, admit it and figure out how to handle it. Focusing on it will only make things seem worse. Get Some Sleep, Being in campus does not means your sleep schedule is, most likely, far from ideal. Getting more sleep can help your mind refocus, recharge, and re-balance.
  •                       Get Some Quiet Time,Take one moment and think: when was the last time you had some quality, quiet time alone? Personal space for students in college rarely exists. You may share your room,your classrooms, , the library, and anywhere else you go during an average day. Finding a few moments of peace and quiet – with no cell phone, roommates, or crowds – might be just what you need.
  •                          Stepping out from the crazy college environment for a few minutes can do wonders for reducing your stress. Get Some Fun,You may be stressed about one particular thing: a final paper due Monday, a class presentation due Thursday. You basically just need to sit down and plow through it. If this is the case, try to figure out how to make it a little more fun and enjoyable.
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BEING TOO CLING’Y?

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Whether you’ve just met someone you like, you’ve been casually dating someone new or you can’t get over your ex, figuring out how to act is anything but easy. When you really like someone, you feel the constant urge to talk to them. Most of the time, you know to ask yourself and your friends if you’re being too needy before hitting “send” on a text, but other times you just can’t resist—and he or she goes MIA. So how do you draw the line between acting flirty and outright desperate?

It’s okay to initiate a conversation if you have been constantly text each other. It’s probably even acceptable to double-text occasionally because we all know how nerve-racking it is to wait for someone’s response, if you’re texting every 10 minutes or fewer and he or she isn’t responding, you’ve fallen deep into the clingy zone.

Worse, if you get sweaty and nervous when he does not answer, you might want to revaluate how attached you are to this person. Generally, being clingy and being insecure go hand in hand. Instead of focusing on this uncertain relationship, focus on yourself and you. Develop your own schedule and your own interests. Not in a way that excludes men in your life completely and makes them feel like an ‘add-on,’ but more in a way that you are committed to your own growth.”

Following someone around is pretty much the definition of clingy behavior .There is plenty of ways of showing someone you are interested. Ways to show them you’re interested without suffocating them in the process.

Face book stalking someone on social media someone you like is normal, unless you’re doing it far too often, but try to minimize how often you do it, because it could mean you’re too desperate. This becomes a problem if you get so stuck worrying about their life that you can’t get on with your own.

If you need to know what your guy is doing every second or you insist that he joins you everywhere you go, these are red flags. The basis around clinginess is the fear of not being loved and not being enough. Be patient and wait for him to meet you halfway. Building attachment takes time doesn’t try to force it!

GUYS’ TAKE ON VIRGINS

You might think you’re one of the few collegiettes who’s still a virgin, but, the fact is, you’re not alone!. You haven’t hit 40-year-old virgin status yet, so stop stressing or thinking you have to lose it to the next guy you meet.

You’ve probably wondered how you’d mention to guys that yes, you are a virgin, and even more importantly, how they might react. Will they treat you differently if they find out you’re a virgin?

Do they even want to know this personal information about you? Is it even a big deal to them? You can stop guessing
So you’re a virgin. What do guys think about this?

They think it’s a turn-on if it’s a relationship
If it’s something more meaningful like the start of a new relationship or a long-term thing, guys consider a girl’s virginity to be a turn-on. “It means she respects her body and the power of sex,”. “From a male perspective, it also keeps you from thinking solely about her in a sexual way because you know it’s probably not going to end up with that.

Also, the thought of knowing that she hasn’t been with any guys makes her much more desirable, at least in their minds.Even though some guys might be surprised to discover that you’re still holding on to your V-card, most of them think it is very respectable. “She must be waiting for the right person,” says Kennedy, a student from the school of engineering.
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PARTY HOOK UP

So you met a total dude at a party.

He’s got a cheeky grin, killer abs and the type of charm Nick mutuma possesses. Best of all? He’s been totally into you ever since you met at a recent party: You’ve gotten a fabulous “good morning” text, a bunch of adorable compliments and a few inquiries about the next hangout.

But did he just like your kissing skills, or does he want something more? Here’s how to tell he’s a keeper during the party and afterward.

At the party He wants to know more about you If he’s totally into himself , this dude may not be Mr. Right. On the other hand, if he does display a real interest in hearing what you’re about, such as asking about your course  and other interests, this guy may be into you.

After all, don’t you want to know all about a potential love interest? He understands if you don’t want to sleep with him Jerk alert!: He pressures you to have sex with him. If you’re not ready, say “no” and hightail it out of there.

“I think the difference between a nice guy and a one-night stand is the nice guy will understand when you don’t want to spend the night with him,” says Elah a student from school of information sciences.. “The one-night stand will say something like, ‘Aw c’mon, you know you wanna…’”

But if he’s completely understanding of your hesitation, congrats! You’ve met someone with the type of qualities every guy should possess. He makes sure you get to your room,okay This means he’s a nice guy. She met one of her boyfriends at a party and she knew he wasn’t looking for a one-night stand when he made sure she got home okay.

It’s a strong indicator of a good guy who cares — especially because it’s never safe for a woman to walk home alone in the middle of the night! Immediately after the party He’s interested in going on a real date If he’s not all, “Come back over to my house, you may be on to something. [He may be nice if] he actually calls you the next day or shortly thereafter and invites you to go out on something that resembles a real date, like a movie Definitely give the date a go and try to catch his vibe.

Is he laying on the charm so thick you know it’s fake? You can tell he’s a phony if he laughs way too loud, touches you a little too often and compliments you excessively. Or does he come off as genuine?

He’s probably sincere if he listens to what you’re saying, asks follow-up questions and isn’t afraid to be a gentleman. If the latter is the case, he’s worth a second date. He wants to meet your friends (and he wants you to meet his, too) You’ve gone on that first date and he seemed like a good guy (so far).

Now, he says he wants to meet the people you’re close with, and he wants to introduce you to his posse as well. [He may be nice if] he’s interested in meeting and hanging out with you and your friends and invites you to hang out with his as well. It’s totally worth bringing your girls to meet him because they can give you their insights on this dude, too.

Your friends have a way of knowing whether the guy you’re into is a bad egg or a catch. And don’t be afraid to meet his friends, too! If he hangs around guys who seem kind, you’ve got reason to question him.

But if he’s got some cool bros, then hey, things are looking up!

He offers to help you out when you need it The dates have been stellar, your girl friends think he’s fantastic, his friends were nice and now you’re really falling for this frat boy. Bonus if he offers to help you in a time of need. [He may be nice if] he offers to help you with something like helping you study for a subject he really likes,.

“If he’s really interested, he’ll want to show you that your connection goes beyond the frat house.” It’s never easy to find a great guy in a world full of college boys who are just looking to get laid. As difficult as they are to find, though, good college guys do exist

…and if you’ve experienced these things with your latest cutie, chances are you’ve got a real keeper on your hands.

MAKE YOUR CAMPUS LIFE EASIER!

Let’s face it, campus life is complicated.

You’ve got school, studying, social life, family… It’s a lot to handle.But there are a few things you can do to simplify your life while you’re in college and make the most of your efforts to earn your degree.

It’s a matter of making the right changes and thinking about your college career strategically, with the big picture always in mind.
Take advantage of resources, If you feel like you’re on your own in your journey toward a degree, you’re wrong. There are many resources available to you for nearly any issue you encounter.

Before you even begin your first day in university, reach out to school officials to see if you can get credit for previous courses, similarly, you should see what types of scholarships are available, even a small one can go a long way toward alleviating your stress over paying for fees .

If you’re struggling with a particular subject, reach out to tutors. Form study groups. Speak with your instructor. These can be valuable resources as you work to get back on track.
For college students, who are looking toward graduation, talk to your school’s career department who will help you with finding jobs openings, interviewing tips, networking and cover letters don’t think that you’re on your own in your quest to land a job. Career services officials can be very useful when it comes to moving forward with your career after you graduate.
Lead a balanced life, one bad grade is not going to wreck your transcript. Missing a party so you can study is not the end of the world either. It’s easy to feel like the challenge in front of you is all when its not.

A good way to stay balanced is to stay organized. You’ll have a better handle on your responsibilities and be able to allocate your time and resources.
Take care of yourself; there are a number of factors that can contribute to you not being as healthy as you should be while you’re pursuing your degree. You’re short on time. You have tons to do.

It’s easy to let your good habits turn into bad ones, but taking care of yourself can go a long way toward your success as a student and a person. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle; mentally, physically, spiritually is important for thinking clearly, which leads to better test scores and less stress.

Eat breakfast; get plenty of rest, exercise. It sounds elementary but these basics can go by the wayside as you dive headlong into the campus life. You’ve got plenty of stuff to worry about, make health a priority and other things will fall into place more easily.

DOES HE REALLY LIKE ME?

Let me save you a lot of time: Most guys just wants sex,they just play dangerous games by being nice and flirty, it’s their way of trying to bait girls into liking them enough to sleep with them. And when he does, he’ll throw into the ocean like I’m , sure he has done with other women
It’s very easy to trick someone into thinking you have a lot of things in common. “My favorite color is blue!” is met with “Oh yeah, mine too!” (Even though his favorite color is actually red). It’s easy to turn up the “nice factor” to get someone to see you as something you’re not

However, if you’re developing feelings for this guy, going through with a FWB deal is a tricky situation as the guy could not be having feelings for you and If you do in fact have feelings for him, it’s better to pull back and cut him off completely than wait around hoping for things to change.

Once you figure out which option you want to pursue, do it and do it with no regrets. Commit to a casual hookup or commit to ditching someone that honestly sounds like kind of a creeper. So while I’ve offered up bits of advice for certain situations, here’s my final ruling:

Ditch him. Casual sex isn’t worth dealing with a two-faced sleaze.

‘PLAYING HOUSE’ IN CAMPUS

College is not real life. For four (or more) years, you are free to do whatever you’d like, whenever you’d like. ‘Playing house,’ is something that couples really love doing here in campus.

Many girls and guys find themselves sleeping over at their significant other’s places so often that they may as well be paying rent. Although this seems like an ideal lifestyle for young lovers, at some point, reality kicks in.
For most couples, the best part about spending every night sleeping at each others apartments is that they can spend as much time together as they want; they don’t have to worry about splitting their minutes between each other.

Spending time as a couple is great, but if seeing each other before bed and in the morning is your main interaction, it sounds more like an unhappy marriage than a budding relationship.

If your guy is always at your apartment, this probably means the two of you are only spending time shut up in there, and aren’t going out to do fun, social things. Isolation like this actually tends to limit one’s social life and this does not sound like a good college experience.
Of course spending a lot of time together is a great way to get to know someone, but hello, people! Does anyone remember the saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” If your guy knows every little thing about you and you’re still in campus… where do you go from there?

There is no element of mystery or surprise or even excitement if your boyfriend can anticipate your every move, plus it’s easier for a relationship to go stale if you lay it all on the table early on. Keep some things private so you can get to know each other a little at a time, otherwise before you know it you’ll be acting like an old married couple… and you’ve got your entire life to do that!

Living together also limits your experiences in that you close off your options of others to date you.
‘Playing house,’ it’s true, is a game for the more mature couples. It’s a perfect scenario for when you’re at school, but what happens after these four magical years disappear and you part ways.

University is a step into the real world but quite there. You are not working full time and someone else is truly supporting you, it does not translate into being able to live together after graduation. If you find a balance, adjusting to other living situations will be easier.
While some truly believe living together is exciting, remember you have to maintain a healthy lifestyle, Have other relationships in your life and avoid isolating yourself. Do not limit yourself to one guy for the rest of your life if you are not so sure about your future.

So if you choose to play house, keep this in mind!!