GUYS’ TAKE ON VIRGINS

You might think you’re one of the few collegiettes who’s still a virgin, but, the fact is, you’re not alone!. You haven’t hit 40-year-old virgin status yet, so stop stressing or thinking you have to lose it to the next guy you meet.

You’ve probably wondered how you’d mention to guys that yes, you are a virgin, and even more importantly, how they might react. Will they treat you differently if they find out you’re a virgin?

Do they even want to know this personal information about you? Is it even a big deal to them? You can stop guessing
So you’re a virgin. What do guys think about this?

They think it’s a turn-on if it’s a relationship
If it’s something more meaningful like the start of a new relationship or a long-term thing, guys consider a girl’s virginity to be a turn-on. “It means she respects her body and the power of sex,”. “From a male perspective, it also keeps you from thinking solely about her in a sexual way because you know it’s probably not going to end up with that.

Also, the thought of knowing that she hasn’t been with any guys makes her much more desirable, at least in their minds.Even though some guys might be surprised to discover that you’re still holding on to your V-card, most of them think it is very respectable. “She must be waiting for the right person,” says Kennedy, a student from the school of engineering.
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PARTY HOOK UP

So you met a total dude at a party.

He’s got a cheeky grin, killer abs and the type of charm Nick mutuma possesses. Best of all? He’s been totally into you ever since you met at a recent party: You’ve gotten a fabulous “good morning” text, a bunch of adorable compliments and a few inquiries about the next hangout.

But did he just like your kissing skills, or does he want something more? Here’s how to tell he’s a keeper during the party and afterward.

At the party He wants to know more about you If he’s totally into himself , this dude may not be Mr. Right. On the other hand, if he does display a real interest in hearing what you’re about, such as asking about your course  and other interests, this guy may be into you.

After all, don’t you want to know all about a potential love interest? He understands if you don’t want to sleep with him Jerk alert!: He pressures you to have sex with him. If you’re not ready, say “no” and hightail it out of there.

“I think the difference between a nice guy and a one-night stand is the nice guy will understand when you don’t want to spend the night with him,” says Elah a student from school of information sciences.. “The one-night stand will say something like, ‘Aw c’mon, you know you wanna…’”

But if he’s completely understanding of your hesitation, congrats! You’ve met someone with the type of qualities every guy should possess. He makes sure you get to your room,okay This means he’s a nice guy. She met one of her boyfriends at a party and she knew he wasn’t looking for a one-night stand when he made sure she got home okay.

It’s a strong indicator of a good guy who cares — especially because it’s never safe for a woman to walk home alone in the middle of the night! Immediately after the party He’s interested in going on a real date If he’s not all, “Come back over to my house, you may be on to something. [He may be nice if] he actually calls you the next day or shortly thereafter and invites you to go out on something that resembles a real date, like a movie Definitely give the date a go and try to catch his vibe.

Is he laying on the charm so thick you know it’s fake? You can tell he’s a phony if he laughs way too loud, touches you a little too often and compliments you excessively. Or does he come off as genuine?

He’s probably sincere if he listens to what you’re saying, asks follow-up questions and isn’t afraid to be a gentleman. If the latter is the case, he’s worth a second date. He wants to meet your friends (and he wants you to meet his, too) You’ve gone on that first date and he seemed like a good guy (so far).

Now, he says he wants to meet the people you’re close with, and he wants to introduce you to his posse as well. [He may be nice if] he’s interested in meeting and hanging out with you and your friends and invites you to hang out with his as well. It’s totally worth bringing your girls to meet him because they can give you their insights on this dude, too.

Your friends have a way of knowing whether the guy you’re into is a bad egg or a catch. And don’t be afraid to meet his friends, too! If he hangs around guys who seem kind, you’ve got reason to question him.

But if he’s got some cool bros, then hey, things are looking up!

He offers to help you out when you need it The dates have been stellar, your girl friends think he’s fantastic, his friends were nice and now you’re really falling for this frat boy. Bonus if he offers to help you in a time of need. [He may be nice if] he offers to help you with something like helping you study for a subject he really likes,.

“If he’s really interested, he’ll want to show you that your connection goes beyond the frat house.” It’s never easy to find a great guy in a world full of college boys who are just looking to get laid. As difficult as they are to find, though, good college guys do exist

…and if you’ve experienced these things with your latest cutie, chances are you’ve got a real keeper on your hands.

MAKE YOUR CAMPUS LIFE EASIER!

Let’s face it, campus life is complicated.

You’ve got school, studying, social life, family… It’s a lot to handle.But there are a few things you can do to simplify your life while you’re in college and make the most of your efforts to earn your degree.

It’s a matter of making the right changes and thinking about your college career strategically, with the big picture always in mind.
Take advantage of resources, If you feel like you’re on your own in your journey toward a degree, you’re wrong. There are many resources available to you for nearly any issue you encounter.

Before you even begin your first day in university, reach out to school officials to see if you can get credit for previous courses, similarly, you should see what types of scholarships are available, even a small one can go a long way toward alleviating your stress over paying for fees .

If you’re struggling with a particular subject, reach out to tutors. Form study groups. Speak with your instructor. These can be valuable resources as you work to get back on track.
For college students, who are looking toward graduation, talk to your school’s career department who will help you with finding jobs openings, interviewing tips, networking and cover letters don’t think that you’re on your own in your quest to land a job. Career services officials can be very useful when it comes to moving forward with your career after you graduate.
Lead a balanced life, one bad grade is not going to wreck your transcript. Missing a party so you can study is not the end of the world either. It’s easy to feel like the challenge in front of you is all when its not.

A good way to stay balanced is to stay organized. You’ll have a better handle on your responsibilities and be able to allocate your time and resources.
Take care of yourself; there are a number of factors that can contribute to you not being as healthy as you should be while you’re pursuing your degree. You’re short on time. You have tons to do.

It’s easy to let your good habits turn into bad ones, but taking care of yourself can go a long way toward your success as a student and a person. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle; mentally, physically, spiritually is important for thinking clearly, which leads to better test scores and less stress.

Eat breakfast; get plenty of rest, exercise. It sounds elementary but these basics can go by the wayside as you dive headlong into the campus life. You’ve got plenty of stuff to worry about, make health a priority and other things will fall into place more easily.

DOES HE REALLY LIKE ME?

Let me save you a lot of time: Most guys just wants sex,they just play dangerous games by being nice and flirty, it’s their way of trying to bait girls into liking them enough to sleep with them. And when he does, he’ll throw into the ocean like I’m , sure he has done with other women
It’s very easy to trick someone into thinking you have a lot of things in common. “My favorite color is blue!” is met with “Oh yeah, mine too!” (Even though his favorite color is actually red). It’s easy to turn up the “nice factor” to get someone to see you as something you’re not

However, if you’re developing feelings for this guy, going through with a FWB deal is a tricky situation as the guy could not be having feelings for you and If you do in fact have feelings for him, it’s better to pull back and cut him off completely than wait around hoping for things to change.

Once you figure out which option you want to pursue, do it and do it with no regrets. Commit to a casual hookup or commit to ditching someone that honestly sounds like kind of a creeper. So while I’ve offered up bits of advice for certain situations, here’s my final ruling:

Ditch him. Casual sex isn’t worth dealing with a two-faced sleaze.

‘PLAYING HOUSE’ IN CAMPUS

College is not real life. For four (or more) years, you are free to do whatever you’d like, whenever you’d like. ‘Playing house,’ is something that couples really love doing here in campus.

Many girls and guys find themselves sleeping over at their significant other’s places so often that they may as well be paying rent. Although this seems like an ideal lifestyle for young lovers, at some point, reality kicks in.
For most couples, the best part about spending every night sleeping at each others apartments is that they can spend as much time together as they want; they don’t have to worry about splitting their minutes between each other.

Spending time as a couple is great, but if seeing each other before bed and in the morning is your main interaction, it sounds more like an unhappy marriage than a budding relationship.

If your guy is always at your apartment, this probably means the two of you are only spending time shut up in there, and aren’t going out to do fun, social things. Isolation like this actually tends to limit one’s social life and this does not sound like a good college experience.
Of course spending a lot of time together is a great way to get to know someone, but hello, people! Does anyone remember the saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” If your guy knows every little thing about you and you’re still in campus… where do you go from there?

There is no element of mystery or surprise or even excitement if your boyfriend can anticipate your every move, plus it’s easier for a relationship to go stale if you lay it all on the table early on. Keep some things private so you can get to know each other a little at a time, otherwise before you know it you’ll be acting like an old married couple… and you’ve got your entire life to do that!

Living together also limits your experiences in that you close off your options of others to date you.
‘Playing house,’ it’s true, is a game for the more mature couples. It’s a perfect scenario for when you’re at school, but what happens after these four magical years disappear and you part ways.

University is a step into the real world but quite there. You are not working full time and someone else is truly supporting you, it does not translate into being able to live together after graduation. If you find a balance, adjusting to other living situations will be easier.
While some truly believe living together is exciting, remember you have to maintain a healthy lifestyle, Have other relationships in your life and avoid isolating yourself. Do not limit yourself to one guy for the rest of your life if you are not so sure about your future.

So if you choose to play house, keep this in mind!!

CONSIDER DOING THIS BEFORE GETTING OUT OF CAMPUS!!

 Make meaningful friends. Have friends who you can always hang around with, Together you can always talk about school work, happenings in the school and also share your experiences and problems. This would make your stay in campus more fun and interesting
 Attend internship programs: Enroll for internships every time you go out for long holidays, It does not matter if your school gives internships before or after you complete your degree. Go out to organizations that deals with what your course entails and apply for one .you’ll be thanking yourself years later
 Read as many books as you can from the library: You will never find anything as resourceful as a college library, make use of it till you can. You will definitely learn much more and improve your intelligence.
 Work in the campus: Be it in the student counseling, volunteer programs, school clubs official or simply an assistant, work at your campus and get involved with people who are not your classmates. It improves your social life.
 Ask your professor to help you with your class work. He or she must be obviously an expert in the course career and keeping him close to you will improve your understanding and skills in your field.
 Take a trip outside your campus to see the surroundings: Many of us just don’t bother to explore the area around the campus. Bad idea! For example here in Moi we have various beautiful sceneries to visit; kesses dam, falls and several natural forests around the school. These trips help to relax your mind as it takes your mind off the normal campus surrounding.
 Protest about things that make you angry in campus; There is no more perfect time in your life than college to protest about issues that bother you. It makes you feel part of the college and gives you good memories to talk about in future. It has to be peaceful and by this I mean you do not have to destroy property because you may also not want to be suspended and waste a lot of time at home doing nothing.
 Support your college team on the enemy’s playground: shout the loudest and be the most loyal fan. Know your school’s sports team and keep abreast with them. It is very fun and will help feel a part of the school.
 Help your juniors: Never forget the positive impact you can have on the students who are new to the college.
 Attend a college party where you know no one: This may sound crazy, but just go for it; chances are very high that you would love to do this frequently

PEER PRESSURE IN CAMPUS

Often times,campus students find themselves trapped in peer groups and yes, its very very okay to be in one. Peer pressure is not bad thing. We all are influenced by our peers, both negatively and positively. It helps define who we are and how we feel about subjects in our lives. It is how we chose to react to peer pressure that defines who we are as an individual. Are we a leader or a follower? Both types of people are needed to make the world go around.Otherwise,this world would be by now made up of very many weirdos who don’t know anyone to relate to.

The difference between negative and positive peer pressure is the outcome. The reverse of the situation above is negative peer pressure. The situation itself is positive peer pressure.  Negative peer pressure is when your peers or friends try to pressure you into something you don’t want to do or isn’t good, like smoking,stealing,raping,sexual immoralities…. Positive peer pressure is when your friends or peers try to pressure you into doing something good, like exercise,joining school clubs, cleaning the school and even going to church.

.Here in campus for example, an example of a negative peer pressure is that of a student ho does not like drinking and smoking but pushes himself herself so as to please his or herself or rather so as to be a accepted in a particular group of guys.Obviously, he or she won’t do so well at it but only damages his self esteem  from the very friends he is trying so hard to impress.In the end,chances are very high that his friends will not notice the much effort he is putting in to ensure he fits well in the group.Eventually and definitely when each and every of his friend is done with their degree and finds their way out to venture into their specific carers,is when he or she will notice the damage caused on his or her self esteem.

This kind of negative peer pressure is very common in campus.people loose their cool and will only notice it later when its too late.Somethings in life are very hard to repair.In the first and second years, most students  have the so called principles,standards and firm boundaries that they they can’t let anyone cross.For girls,this is usually written in their faces and believe me when i say being gullible is never their thing  at this time.But by third year,things usually change,the unexpected happens and for most it always seem so hard  to come out.

Positive peer pressure is the good influential feeling you get from your friends,  Its like a lot of things they say and do which make you want to behave in a certain way or do a certain thing. Positive peer pressure usually contributes to a person doing good and better things than they would normally do.In campus,it mostly involves going to church,joining clubs and also keeping off from drugs,sexually immorality and abuse.This kind of peer pressure is rare and few students normally succumb to this.

The decision on the kind one decides to choose to join is always left on the students,One has to know what they really want to do so that they are not left with so many options to choose from.