BEING TOO CLING’Y?

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Whether you’ve just met someone you like, you’ve been casually dating someone new or you can’t get over your ex, figuring out how to act is anything but easy. When you really like someone, you feel the constant urge to talk to them. Most of the time, you know to ask yourself and your friends if you’re being too needy before hitting “send” on a text, but other times you just can’t resist—and he or she goes MIA. So how do you draw the line between acting flirty and outright desperate?

It’s okay to initiate a conversation if you have been constantly text each other. It’s probably even acceptable to double-text occasionally because we all know how nerve-racking it is to wait for someone’s response, if you’re texting every 10 minutes or fewer and he or she isn’t responding, you’ve fallen deep into the clingy zone.

Worse, if you get sweaty and nervous when he does not answer, you might want to revaluate how attached you are to this person. Generally, being clingy and being insecure go hand in hand. Instead of focusing on this uncertain relationship, focus on yourself and you. Develop your own schedule and your own interests. Not in a way that excludes men in your life completely and makes them feel like an ‘add-on,’ but more in a way that you are committed to your own growth.”

Following someone around is pretty much the definition of clingy behavior .There is plenty of ways of showing someone you are interested. Ways to show them you’re interested without suffocating them in the process.

Face book stalking someone on social media someone you like is normal, unless you’re doing it far too often, but try to minimize how often you do it, because it could mean you’re too desperate. This becomes a problem if you get so stuck worrying about their life that you can’t get on with your own.

If you need to know what your guy is doing every second or you insist that he joins you everywhere you go, these are red flags. The basis around clinginess is the fear of not being loved and not being enough. Be patient and wait for him to meet you halfway. Building attachment takes time doesn’t try to force it!

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