College is not real life. For four (or more) years, you are free to do whatever you’d like, whenever you’d like. ‘Playing house,’ is something that couples really love doing here in campus.
Many girls and guys find themselves sleeping over at their significant other’s places so often that they may as well be paying rent. Although this seems like an ideal lifestyle for young lovers, at some point, reality kicks in.
For most couples, the best part about spending every night sleeping at each others apartments is that they can spend as much time together as they want; they don’t have to worry about splitting their minutes between each other.
Spending time as a couple is great, but if seeing each other before bed and in the morning is your main interaction, it sounds more like an unhappy marriage than a budding relationship.
If your guy is always at your apartment, this probably means the two of you are only spending time shut up in there, and aren’t going out to do fun, social things. Isolation like this actually tends to limit one’s social life and this does not sound like a good college experience.
Of course spending a lot of time together is a great way to get to know someone, but hello, people! Does anyone remember the saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” If your guy knows every little thing about you and you’re still in campus… where do you go from there?
There is no element of mystery or surprise or even excitement if your boyfriend can anticipate your every move, plus it’s easier for a relationship to go stale if you lay it all on the table early on. Keep some things private so you can get to know each other a little at a time, otherwise before you know it you’ll be acting like an old married couple… and you’ve got your entire life to do that!
Living together also limits your experiences in that you close off your options of others to date you.
‘Playing house,’ it’s true, is a game for the more mature couples. It’s a perfect scenario for when you’re at school, but what happens after these four magical years disappear and you part ways.
University is a step into the real world but quite there. You are not working full time and someone else is truly supporting you, it does not translate into being able to live together after graduation. If you find a balance, adjusting to other living situations will be easier.
While some truly believe living together is exciting, remember you have to maintain a healthy lifestyle, Have other relationships in your life and avoid isolating yourself. Do not limit yourself to one guy for the rest of your life if you are not so sure about your future.
So if you choose to play house, keep this in mind!!